As I was speaking with a brokenhearted young man who is going through a break up, it struck me how many people are under the false impression that love is a feeling.
Through tears he said, "She doesn't feel that spark anymore".
Love is not a spark.
Love is not a feeling.
Love is an action.
Love is a commitment.
Love is an act of your will.
Love is a choice.
When you vow to love, you are not promising to love and to cherish when you feel like it.
We can't trust our feelings. They lie.
You won't always "feel" like loving or "feel" IN Love.
You choose to love.
We love because HE first loved us.
1 John 4:19
If you have not made the choice to Love, your feelings will follow your choice.
Spending time with God...is a choice.
Ask Him to help you choose to love...to help you treat others with love whether you feel it or not!
Men, LOVE your wives.
Women, LOVE your husbands.
"Making marriage work is like running a farm. You have to start all over again each morning."
Get up, sit beside the Lord, ask HIM how you can best show love to your spouse through your actions today.
Then, get up...and go...plant, nourish, water, grow and harvest love.
There's a farm to run!
If you are having doubts about your relationship, about your vows, please, seek Godly Biblical counsel.
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