As I was speaking with a brokenhearted young man who is going through a break up, it struck me that so many people are under the false impression that love is a feeling.
Through tears he said, "She doesn't feel that spark anymore".
Love in not a spark.
Love is not a feeling.
Love is an action.
Love is a commitment.
Love is an act of your will.
Love is a choice.
When you vow to love, you are not promising to love and to cherish when you feel like it.
We can't trust our feelings. They are big fat liars.
You won't always "feel" like loving or "feel" IN love.
You CHOOSE to love.
We love because HE first loved us.
If you have not made the choice to Love, your feeling will follow your choice.
Spending time with God...is a choice.
Ask Him to help you choose to love...to help you treat others with love whether you feel it or not!
Men, LOVE your wives.
Women, LOVE your husbands.
"Making marriage work is like running a farm. You have to start all over again each morning."
Let's get up, sit beside the LORD, ask HIM how we can best show love to our spouse through our actions today.
Then, get up...go plant, nourish, water and harvest love.
There's a farm to run!
22-24 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.
25-28 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.
Just Thinkin',
Kathy
*If you are having doubts about your relationship, about your vows, please, seek a Godly Biblically Trained Professional Counselor. If abuse is in any way a part of your situation, seek protection and help right away.*
